My recorder and the mentor can be counted on. They really, truly want to know about everything I am experiencing. I didn't fully get this until I had children. I really, truly want to know about everything they are experiencing. Projecting this process onto my recorder is helpful when conditioning is insinuating that something is too routine, too boring, too negative, too transient —or too conditioned!—to talk about.

When I begin to record about some subject and a conditioned assessment kicks in, I just record about both the subject and the conditioned assessment. A perspective usually arises that transforms content that ego would label as "petty" into a reassurance, an insight, or a reminder that there is nothing wrong.

Practicing with this projection—wanting to know about everything a being is experiencing—has also helped to create an "identification alarm." If there is an awareness of not wanting to listen to someone, I follow the projection back to see what is going on for me. Am I identified?  Anytime I'm relating to another person in the world and I find I don't want to know about everything that person is experiencing, it's a flashing red light that I'm identified.

When possible, a wonderful way out is to R/L. Very quickly, any experience I'm having that isn't being heard gets heard, and just as quickly, the agenda ego was mounting to defend itself and keep me from being open to others loses its reason for being.

Gassho.

 

 

 

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